friend Steven said he's still waiting to find out what
the various abbreviations represent in the classified
ads. Well, Steve, here we go:
GWM. The first letters usually represent the advertiser's
status, such as Gay White Male. B stands for Black,
Bi for bisexual, F for female, C
for couple, A for Asian, H for Hispanic,
M means married. It may be followed by letters
indicating hair and eye color, as in Br/Br or Bl/Gr,
that is Blonde hair/Green eyes. But then you probably
knew those letters.
water sports indicate activity with urine, either as a
Golden Shower (GS) or as a drink. Another way to
state it is to include the word piss or to mention recycled
is verbal abuse, profanity, verbal humiliation as
in "Suck that cock you pig." Whole chapters
could be written about the pro's and con's of this fetish.
Some people think that this is the most dangerous aspect
of course is short for Sado-masochism. In the past it
was more often referred to as S&M. The new, more PC
term, recognizes that sadism and masochism are dimensions
of the same activity. Actual habits die hard and I most
often say "S&M". I'm not always very good
at learning new tricks.
or B&D is bondage and discipline. They often
go together, since once you've got them tied up, it's
easier to apply a paddle. Many of those into being spanked
prefer to be bound first so that they can struggle and
not escape. Others though look for bondage as an end itself
and do not want accompanying pain. If that is the case
with you, don't say B&D, just say bondage. And some
of course take their "lickings like a man" and
don't want to be restrained.
and Fr/p refer to oral genital activity in the
active or passive mode. Gr refers to anal genital activity.
After all, the most likely end to a good Leather sex scene
is a healthy orgasm.
stands for torture as in TT -- tit torture ---
and CBT -- cock and ball torture. Good tit work
proves conclusively that the nipples are directly connected
to the gonads. It takes a bit of practice, but a well
trained tit is a pleasure for everyone. Start slowly and
give your nipples regular attention and you will enjoy
them for years.
is a good old-fashioned, safe-sex jack off.
is hot and melted off a burning candle. It is a quick,
short-lived and usually harmless pain. There is more psychology
than heat involved here. It can be fun but make sure you
use candles with a low-burning temperature, the cheaper
the better (expensive ones use bees' wax that burns hotter).
Keep the flame high enough from the body not to harm anyone.
It is a mess to clean up. A bit of baby oil on the skin
before applying the wax will help. Shaving the body first
makes clean up that much easier.
stands for the body builder that you are or are looking
means fist-fucking. Remember, no glove, no love, indicating
that a rubber glove is safer sex.
is leather/levi. There's also rubber and latex, spandex,
and various uniform fetishes as well.
is short for scatology which the dictionary defines as
"an obsession with excrement or excretory functions."
Not a recommended sport these days, in fact it never was,
but it does happen.
or rimming refers to oral anal contact.
are not alway clear and readily apparent. I ran across
one while researching ads for this list that I've never
used and had difficulty remembering: CP. It took
me a moment to remember to recall that it stands for Corporal
Punishment...good old fashioned spanking!
the same vein as abbreviations are hanky codes. Ostensibly,
the color of the handkerchief peeking out of a person's
rear pants pocket indicates a proclivity towards a certain
activity. Left rear pocket indicates the dominant position,
right the submissive or receiver. I've never found the
codes very reliable. It really seems that in more recent
years, the whole idea of codes has fallen into dis-use.
With the advent of AIDS, many of the more esoteric sexual
activities have fallen into disfavor, at least to the
degree that one might restrict the more risky behavior
to actions with known (as compared with one-night) partners.
fact that a large number of people don't know what the
signals mean has also caused them to go out of favor.
Besides, with the right person any activity might happen,
with the wrong person one is apt to refrain from even
their favorite sex act.
This list was garnered from one distributed by Male Hide
Leathers® in Chicago. I've abbreviated
it since it held many colors and multiple colors that
one rarely sees anywhere.
to be Fisted
8" or More
S & M Top
S & M Bottom
to be Jacked Off
to JO others
& WHITE CHECK
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