I read what I've written in these columns, I'm struck
with how intellectual and philosophical I can get. Those
are important aspects of the Leather scene. For SM is
not a mindless passion or irrational impulse. It springs
from deeply felt and very real needs, urges, and desires.
Its fountain is the subconscious, its river bed, life...
But all that academic stuff can be a bit much. So this
week, let me just "get down and dirty". Let
me write about spanking.
I've whipped a lot of ass in my leather career and some
of those scenes still amaze me. In fact it was a session
with a guy out in the suburbs that proved to me that I
have limits --- and I was the one doing the whipping!
It didn't hurt me at all, but it was more than I could
Several years ago I wrote an "Application for training
to serve a Master". In it I described three reasons
One: the Master's pleasure. It can be exciting to whip
an ass, thigh, or back. The harder the more exciting.
Spanking, belting, and paddling are downright arousing.
Two: Bottom's like it, or at least want it, or at least
want to see if they can take it. Generally, bottoms feel
a desire for it and are satisfied, given pleasure by receiving.
Three: Some discipline is real punishment for the breaking
of a "rule". This is corporal punishment to
enforce discipline and state, in a physical and memorable
way, that the Master is in control. It underlines one's
dominance and the other's submission. This third type
of discipline is usually most painful, least used, and
of short duration. Having gotten it once, you won't want
to break that rule again.
Before I go much further, let me define terms. The idea
of discipline includes spanking (with one's hand or belt),
paddling, whipping, strapping, birching, and caning. The
tools can be wooden paddles, as used in fraternities,
belts, whips, riding crops, wooden spoons, saplings such
as "hickory sticks", leather straps and paddles,
cats (whips that are bunches of leather thongs). They
can be of various sizes, widths, and textures. Knots,
spikes, tacks, and holes all add variations to their effect.
And the people who "get paddled" have all sorts
of motives as well. Paul likes to take it through his
spandex shorts and doesn't want much sex with it. Give
him a short drink of cheap brandy and then go at his ass
Art has an ass that's tough. He likes it BA (bare ass)
and likes to know that he'll end up with welts.
Chuck, on the other hand, is into mutual scenes. He loves
to "trade swats". Five on him and then five
on you. "Take it like a man" is his attitude
and his satisfaction.
A spanking scene can be mutual, strictly dominance and
submission, or a part of a wider scenario.
The best effect (or so they tell me) comes from starting
the action slowly and slowly building in your effect.
I often start a spanking scene by swatting the butt, still
in its protective clothing, first with my hand, then gradually
increase the severity of the instrument, the force of
the application, and the speed of the administration.
(Sounds erudite, doesn't it?)
Hit in various places, concentrating on a spot for a time
and then aiming somewhere else. Take a short break and
start again. Caress and kiss a red spot, feel the heat
of the area, help the bottom to relax and then go to it
Physical intimacy is an important part of spanking scene.
The domination can arouse deep affection on the bottom's
part and he/she may likewise respond to softness with
wild lust and unadulterated devotion.
Positions should vary as well. Have her over your knee
or tied spread eagle on the bed. I like to strap a guy
down to a hassock in the living room, ass available. Restraints
and gags help. Sometimes though it's just nice to let
them hold you as you apply the pain.
The spanking fraternity is large, but discovering it isn't
always easy. And it is more than a "fraternity,"
since it certainly includes women, both dominatrices and
submissives. It crosses lines of sexual orientation, age,
The book, Male Fantasies/Gay Realities by George Stambolian,
has an interview with a Masochist. Let me quote from his
"How is the pain inflicted?
"With a wide leather belt. I can take it to a point
where I think I can't take it any more, and then I can
switch it off. I seem to have no feeling.
"Like some mystics you've learned to master your
body through your mind.
"Yes, I have done that.
"You do this because it gives him pleasure, and because
you prove your...
"To him and you yourself?
"Yes, to both of us"
And later he continues:
"I have a man now who can look at me and get excited.
It turns me on, and I'll do anything for that feeling,
to keep it. And I want him to beat me harder because I
don't want him to look anywhere else to find that satisfaction.
And that's answering the question about pain and pleasure.
I'm taking my pain because I'm getting pleasure out of
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Get some pleasure for yourself this week as well.
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